When did everyone forget their manners?
Sep. 30th, 2009 08:14 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
filthgoblinAfter my experience of someone calling me a bitch on my Facebook status update a couple of weeks ago, Mr G yesterday received a tirade of abuse from someone he worked with about three years ago as a PM on self same site. This guy had tried to strike up a Facebook chat with Mr G on a couple of occasions, during which time Mr G had either been away from the computer and left FB open, had it running in a different tab and didn't realise he was being chatted at or on the one occasion he was trying to talk back to the guy was trying to upload photos at the same time and couldn't get the chat applet to work and told him as much.
Apparently this was sufficient provocation for Mr G to receive a message on Facebook last night that kept him up until 7am fretting. Apparently "refusing" to engage in a chat with someone he's not spoken to in nearly three years and only ever worked with briefly makes Mr G an "aloof, arrogant twat". Really?
Trouble is, Mr G is feeling particularly down on himself at the moment because of having to take more time off work, and also because of some of the hurtful things A said in our protracted friendship breakdown earlier this year and he's been sat up all night, upset that everyone thinks he's an cold, arrogant bully and what that means about how he really is.
I want to hunt this person down and tell him a few things about the consequences of sounding off via the internet with your ill-formed views and nastiness.
This year I've read quite a bit about how the relative anonymity of the internet giving people licence to let rip both barrels and say hurtful and even sometimes defamatory things without fear of redress. David Mitchell wrote an article in the Guardian newspaper about his own experiences and I wholeheartedly agree with everything he says.
It's left me wondering how difficult it is to do a mental check before you hit "send" as to whether you would say what you've just typed out loud and to someone's face? It only goes to show you can't be too careful.
Apparently this was sufficient provocation for Mr G to receive a message on Facebook last night that kept him up until 7am fretting. Apparently "refusing" to engage in a chat with someone he's not spoken to in nearly three years and only ever worked with briefly makes Mr G an "aloof, arrogant twat". Really?
Trouble is, Mr G is feeling particularly down on himself at the moment because of having to take more time off work, and also because of some of the hurtful things A said in our protracted friendship breakdown earlier this year and he's been sat up all night, upset that everyone thinks he's an cold, arrogant bully and what that means about how he really is.
I want to hunt this person down and tell him a few things about the consequences of sounding off via the internet with your ill-formed views and nastiness.
This year I've read quite a bit about how the relative anonymity of the internet giving people licence to let rip both barrels and say hurtful and even sometimes defamatory things without fear of redress. David Mitchell wrote an article in the Guardian newspaper about his own experiences and I wholeheartedly agree with everything he says.
It's left me wondering how difficult it is to do a mental check before you hit "send" as to whether you would say what you've just typed out loud and to someone's face? It only goes to show you can't be too careful.
